Samantha, I am sorry to have made a joke about a sensitive situation. Hopefully, you are on your way to personal growth and learning from this experience that will better inform your future decisions, and also on your way to emotional recovery.
Back to my point. Of course you can't ball all black men up into one man, but let's say you can. If a man now has the opportunity to date beautiful women deemed by society as the most desireable whereas in the past he only had the opportunity to date lesser attractive women, in most people's eyes, he has made progress.
How has he made that progress? Probably by becoming more educated and financially successful, two qualities which tend to attract women more often than they should in a just world.