Is she wrong is the question we should be asking?
I guess my point is that though there were a million things wrong with both of my parents as partners, I don't ever remember either of them ever cutting the other one down or calling the other names in front of me or my brother.
And she literally prioritizes her work above everything. "That's what normal working people do, I don't have some fake ass government job, that's not the real world." And that's ok if that's what she needs to do (I think she should quietly quit(, but don't criticize me because I don't do the same. I work 45 hours a week, am happy with what I do, and get exceptional job reviews. But that's not my whole life. Sorry, but many normal people take federal holidays off. And when they do, it doesn't make them a dipshit.
Sorry for the rant. I suppose I should just rant to my teenage daughter, or my friends who died, moved away, or faded away, rather than other weirdos on the internet.