I never said I was better than anybody.
Can I share with you a quote from my wife regarding daycare? And if you think she (or I for respecting and sharing my wife's views), by having these thoughts. am saying I am better than you, well fine. Infer whatever you want.
to me, there's be no other way for a child under one...and possibly 2-3...but no way I would leave a non-walking, non-talking infant who is supposed to be held and cuddled all day and given breastmilk on demand with someone other than me...
It's not the kind of thing I need a study to tell me is good or bad for the child either, as a mother, I just know...and I am actually sad for those who can't or won't stay with their babies...
Anyway, I would have been heartbroken to be with a husband who tried to push me to go back to work before I wanted to
As a critical thinking human... the 'as a mother, I just know' is complete and utter bullshit.
Mother's can be just as shitty as anybody.
Yes, I have seen, first hand and with devastating results, the "but I'm their MOTHER" defense put in to practice. The discrimination that fathers face because they are not "mothers" is ungodly and unreal. I'm ranting here...this is off topic. But mothers do not always know best.
That said, I'd say it's pretty obvious that the best situation for a newborn, generally speaking, is to spend as much time as possible with the mother, rather than $12/hour baby holders at some daycare somewhere.
Sadly, this is not possible for everyone.