My wife's parents didn't pay a dime toward her college. They did, however, give 10% of their earnings to their church. Crappy parenting.
If someone can afford expensive concert tickets AND healthy contributions to your kid's college fund, then that's great! If someone is putting a INFANT (less than one years old) in daycare, making two incomes, and using the extra second income on concert tickets, wouldn't you think maybe they have mixed up priorities?
Why is it wrong to think a baby (under 1) should be with its mother all day? Ultimately it's the choice of the mother, and the man needs to respect that choice.