1.) See more shows
2.) Play more shows
3.) Read books
4.) Use book knowledge.
5.) Tell my ex-bandmate that we are no longer technically bandmates, I mean we haven't practiced together in six months and haven't played a show in like four months dude, plus all you ever do is recycle the same reasons why you're depressed usually boiling down to women and needing a job, but you think you're better than every girl you meet and above any job you can feasibly get, also you need to move out of your "Leave it to Beaver" conservative grandparents' house/bubble and try living in the real world for a week/month/year.
6.) Be more assertive.