You know what, I think 2-3 boardies already know this so as good a thread to share in as any:
My wife had a very serious mental health crisis in late in 2022 and started self-medicating heavily with alcohol and also other things (but alcohol being probably the most deleterious). I did Dry Q1 (2023) in an attempt to make it a thing we did together and joined Al-Anon but it did not take on her end (she would destroy Al-Anon stuff she found in my home office and refused to acknowledge any issue) and I would go out of town to work and check my Ring doorbell and basically find our home was being used as a flophouse. She moved out around July to start a relationship with another dude but has basically harassed me constantly since then, refusing to agree to a divorce agreement despite a pre-nup.
A "gentleman" she knows who is SOMEHOW a member of the Virginia bar is attempting to extort me for over a half a million dollars for . . . reasons? (He is also openly doing this on a contingency basis which is eventually going to get him disbarred but this process is proving slow.) She continues to come over and access the house thru whatever means necessary with a gang of hooligans at various hours of the day and night and has threatened to kill me and our cat. I had to couch surf with friends out of an attempt to protect myself and my sanity and pay a security guard to basically try and make sure she doesn't access the marital home. I have been able to get very temporary orders of protection but nothing long lasting and since the divorce isn't finalized, I cannot bar her from the house. She threatens to "death by cop" me every so often.
Out of an abundance of caution, I am pretty much scared to be inebriated at all because I have no idea when she might appear and I need my senses about me. Also my anxiety over all of this makes drinking very unpleasent even when out of town or she couldn't find me if she was trying. The panic attacks have been so bad I have had to be hospitalized over this twice.
So, in longer response to your queries, neither my body nor mental health is ideal right now.
EDIT: To tie up lose ends on one of Yada's long-unanswered questions, I and her mother GPS tracked "her" Subaru to her hometown of Saratoga Springs in the summer during Travers week, back during a time period where we held out hope that some sort of rehab would be possible. I do not want to get into specifics about why we were hopeful that within the confines of that court system we would have a better chance of getting her TROed of 72-hour-held or whatever they call it in NY (because I fear getting an in-law doxxed or accused of something), but it was a working Hail Mary. I and a "private investigator" tracked "her" car to the Phish show I attended in hopes of getting her brought in front of the legal system in that particular county but we sadly never found her. I think she might have spotted me first and left. By the time we rechecked the Subaru app she was halfway to the Canadian border. Sadly she returned to the US.
