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Going it alone at a show
« on: May 11, 2007, 12:48:00 pm »
Read this and was wondering (1) what boardies think of going to shows alone, (2) do you do so often, (3) if so, got a great story or particular band you *must* see alone?
 
 The Glutton: Raw Power!
 By Dalton Ross
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 I go to movies by myself. I suppose the first time I did it I was a bit embarrassed, but I got over that pretty quick. In fact, I pretty much only go to movies by myself these days. There are two reasons for this, the first being that my wife and I have extremely different tastes in film. I usually prefer something involving a person chowing down on a live octopus or a posse of killer robots, while her two favorite movie stars of the past decade are Hugh Grant and Mandy Moore (which makes it even more surprising that she was only lukewarm on American Dreamz, a film seemingly cast solely for her). The second reason is that one of us usually has to be home with the kids, since we never seem to get our act together to secure a competent babysitter. So I got to movies by myself.
 
 But this isn't altogether too odd. I sometimes see other people hanging out by themselves at the multiplex. So I decided to take it to the next level the other week by flying solo at a concert. Truth be told, the tickets fell into my lap at the last minute so the wife couldn't attend, and I did try to guilt a friend into going with me, but when she couldn't make it I became my own one-man army for rock! The venue: an ornate old theater on 175th Street. The act: the Stooges.
 
 I guess a little background is in order. The Stooges are my favorite band ever. Unfortunately, the original lineup disbanded before I was born, but I went on to see their lead singer, Iggy Pop, countless times while growing up. I also caught the reunited band on their first tour back together a few years ago. They were awesome then, and I knew they'd be awesome again, so not only would I go see them by myself, but I would in all likelihood go see them by myself while wearing a San Diego Chicken costume if that's what was required. (C'mon, you know you loved The Baseball Bunch, too! Don't even front!) Apparently, I am the only one who felt that way (or, perhaps more likely, the only one dorky enough to not have a friend), as everyone else there was in groups of two, four, or even more. But as my millions of hours of solitary television-viewing should have taught me, company is overrated. Once the songs start, who wants to talk, anyway? And if you do try to converse, the person you're with can't hear you and you start to yell, and then they yell back, and then you both nod pretending you understand what the other person has said, even though in actuality, neither of you have a clue. (This exchange is usually punctuated with a high five of some sort, as a universal way of acknowledging that while you may not know what the other is saying, MAN DOES THIS ROCK F&#$ING ROCK!!!!)
 
 That's my observation on attending concerts by yourself. But this show was particularly enlightening in another way as well: Age really is a state of mind. First, you have Iggy Pop, now 60 years old, running, jumping, punching, and stage-diving for 90 minutes straight. The guy was a nonstop lunatic, even allowing his ass crack and ''Little Iggy'' to sneak out on occasion. Every time I see Pop, I expect him to slow down and he never does. What was far more curious, however, was during the punk-rock anthem ''No Fun,'' when he invited the entire theater-full of fans up on stage with him. About 100-200 people took him up on the offer. Now, this is not the first time I've seen folks flood the stage, but it is the first time where the average age of the person banging into other sweaty bodies was in the 40- to 50-year-old range. There was one cat wearing skinny pants and no shirt with a huge ''I NEED MORE'' tattoo sprawled across his entire back. Again, not all that unusual. But the fact that he was completely gray and probably in his 60s certainly was.
 
 I have to say, seeing this was the most exhilarating part of the show. It was one of the most communal rock experiences I've felt in a long time. The Stooges were always at their best when it felt like they were gonna tear down the place, and in this instance I actually found myself wondering if the stage could possibly collapse. Honestly, if it had, the people up there would have most likely been even more psyched. I'm not yet as old as some of the revelers that evening, but when I am, I hope I still have that fire in my heart, that passion in my belly, and someone to catch me when I no doubt awkwardly crumple to the floor in a pathetic heap. And who knows, maybe when that day comes, I'll even have someone there to share it all with.

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Re: Going it alone at a show
« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2007, 12:49:00 pm »
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 I'm not alone. Well, actually, I was alone, and I wrote a whole column about it. But judging by your letters, it turns out I'm not the only one to fly solo at a concert. Others wanted to discuss their brushes with reality-star fame...if you want to call it that.
 
 I've attended a couple of shows on my own (as opposed to alone). Sometimes it's just easier than convincing a non-fan to go. Only once was it kinda awkward. I went to see Wilco at the Fox Theatre in St. Louis (4,000+ seats). I managed to land a seat in the pit (another good reason for going it alone at a show â?? single tickets are generally better seats), and arrived during the first song of the opener, Calexico. For the first 25 minutes it felt like it was just me and the band. We had a little awkward eye contact, but then I realized that I was liking my own private Calexico concert. The other seats filled in around me, and the folks were more than willing to strike up a conversation during the break between bands (many had known [Jeff] Tweedy during the Uncle Tupelo/Cicero's years [Cicero's is a small club near Washington University, where the band played on a regular basis]). All in all it was a hell of a night. â??Ann Marie
 
 Dalton, I would gladly go to a Stooges concert with you. I'm a 19-year-old girl, and last year I went to two Who concerts alone and met some very nice (and absolutely insane) people who'd been Who fans for 20 years before I was born. That's what concerts like that are about â?? you don't need to go with someone just to go with someone, and maybe you even shouldn't, because then you'll be disappointed that they're not having as great a time as you are and (in my case) that they don't know how long the synthesizer entrance is in "Baba O'Riley" or can't air-drum to the solo in "Won't Get Fooled Again." Whenever I see something I am passionately involved with (not obsessed, as my mother would say), I don't want non-passionate people raining on my parade. â??Kristina Caffrey
 
 I've been to two concerts alone, both for my favorite band: Hanson. I've been a Fanson since '97, but didn't see them until '03 and '05. Both shows exceeded my every expectation. Now, I'm eagerly awaiting the release of their new album next month and hoping any subsequent tours bring them to Las Vegas once again. Only one problem...now that I have a boyfriend who actually enjoys their music, I'm not sure I want anyone who knows me to see how I act at these shows. It's one thing to see me dance around our house...does he need to see me in full, concert-going freak-out mode? I guess I'll have to wait and see. â??Dacia Lower

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Re: Going it alone at a show
« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2007, 12:52:00 pm »
I used to go to a lot of shows alone in DC, then I joined this board, and rarely was there a roll call where there was no one I knew going to the show.
 
 Since I've moved to SF, I think I went to one show by myself (New Model Army).
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« Reply #3 on: May 11, 2007, 12:53:00 pm »
I don't have the attention span to read all that, but going to shows alone is my life....or should I say, was my life. Never bothered me in the slightest and you always end up making conversation with someone at some point, because you obviously had something in common with every single person there.....you like the same band!

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« Reply #4 on: May 11, 2007, 12:56:00 pm »
I go to shows solo all the time here in Portland, the people I know here dont go to shows.  Mostly it means I go to less shows because I only go to the ones that I really want to go to, its no longer a social event.  The only part I hate about it is the waiting between bands and also the looking around and realizing how old I feel.

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« Reply #5 on: May 11, 2007, 12:57:00 pm »
I go to probably 95% of my shows solo.  Sometimes my wife will come if it's a band she likes, sometimes I'll meet up with someone first.  Still, I"m with the author; you can't (and I don't want) to talk while the band is playing, so what's the big deal?  Still, I'm not adverse to going with someone.  It's just that most of my real life friends aren't as into music as I am anyway.
 
   
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  I don't have the attention span to read all that, but going to shows alone is my life....or should I say, was my life. Never bothered me in the slightest and you always end up making conversation with someone at some point, because you obviously had something in common with every single person there.....you like the same band!

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« Reply #6 on: May 11, 2007, 12:59:00 pm »
Those are the only two downsides....both of which are cured by drinking heavily in between sets.
 
   
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 The only part I hate about it is the waiting between bands and also the looking around and realizing how old I feel.

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Re: Going it alone at a show
« Reply #7 on: May 11, 2007, 01:00:00 pm »
i have never once been to a show myself.
 
   but i suppose if no one could go to the Radiohead show, i would.
 
   and i've only been to one movie myself.  but i have always been wanting to start, cause sometimes i feel like when the fiancee comes, i am just spending twice as much money and she doesnt even enjoy the show anyway!!

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« Reply #8 on: May 11, 2007, 01:00:00 pm »
I go to shows alone when I'm travelling for work.  Otherwise, I'm usually going with someone (except for Tori Amos shows.  I'm always going to them by myself)
 
 I go to the movies all the time by myself though, and I love it.

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« Reply #9 on: May 11, 2007, 01:01:00 pm »
Back in the days of the old 9:30, I went to a lot more shows alone.  My 'music friends' of the very early 90s had moved, and I had to go alone to see most of what I wanted to see.  I only went to 9:30 alone, though -- it was comfortable and fun.
 
 Then I took about 5 years off going to shows at all.  Said loss of 'show friends.' Met some new people (my current show posse) and came back with a vengeance -- 50-60 shows a year in DC.  Don't go to many shows alone now, though.  As Smackie mentioned, I usually know a Board member going if 'non-Board' friends aren't.  
 
 Though Markie would disagree, I don't talk during songs even with a big group of friends.  My friend Marni does!!!  (No worries, she moved to NYC).

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« Reply #10 on: May 11, 2007, 01:02:00 pm »
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  Those are the only two downsides....both of which are cured by drinking heavily in between sets.
Aaaaah, one of my problems.  I don't drink alone!!!

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« Reply #11 on: May 11, 2007, 01:07:00 pm »
Back when I was living in Chile, I went alone to the shows all the time, because my friends were really lazy and they didnt like to see bands live.
 When I got here, I used to go with my girlfriend pretty often, but then I started to know the city better, and now I go to shows alone all the time... and you know what?, I like it...
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« Reply #12 on: May 11, 2007, 01:10:00 pm »
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 I go to the movies all the time by myself though, and I love it.
I stopped going to the cinema shortly after moving to the US....I couldn't take the black people talking through the damn movie.   ;)

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« Reply #13 on: May 11, 2007, 01:16:00 pm »
i get made fun of for this at work all the time because i refuse to do a lot of things alone - going to a movie is one of them, eating out is another.
 
 i will and have, however, i've only attended two shows alone (bright eyes and tv on the radio)and just started doing it (obviously). i've only been in the dc area about a year and the majority of folks i've come in contact with aren't as into music i am and are fairly indifferent when it comes to shows. but when it comes down to it, i love having someone with me who enjoys the music and band as much as i do, but i would MUCH RATHER go alone then drag someone who doesn't want to be there there, just so as that i'm not alone.
 
 at first the idea sort of freaked me out, but i always find someone to talk to (i'm a little chatterbox) and end up enjoying myself.
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« Reply #14 on: May 11, 2007, 01:17:00 pm »
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   i've only been in the dc area about a year and the majority of folks i've come in contact with aren't as into music i am and are fairly indifferent when it comes to shows.  
just tell em how much you love shaking your ass and surely you'll find someone to go with!!!