boo hoo
I think I am not understanding what it is you claim you do...I definitely have never seen anything resembling what I'm thinking of/visualizing
Peoiple telling each other they think so and so is attractive I don't see at all as strange.. people ogling other people in front of their partner is what I'm referring to... the problem with that isn't the "looking" but that it makes the partner look like a worthless hoe.... if two people had a relationship where it was agreed betweeen the two people that it was ok to ogle, turn around to stare at ass, get lost in someone else's cleavage, etc.. yes I would have to question that...and that is what i'm referring to.. .I thought it would be obvious that there is nothing wrong or strange with two people in a loving secure relationship discussing whether they find other people attractive... but if the two people are knowingly and with the other's consent making the other look rather worthless, yes, that would be a sign of problems..take that a step further even: would one stare at other chicks' tits or ass at the beach in front of their children? Not sure there is anything revolutionary in what I'm saying but people will feel judged and hurt as they see fit!