Originally posted by Julian, good manners AFICIONADO:
And of course there were some common interests or things we both liked doing, but the focus wasn't on "what we like to do" but "what we like in the other person." I just don't get people who are like "oh, I wouldn't date anyone who likes ________," or people who won't date a girl unless she likes football. That's so stupid. Football is not the be all and end all of the world.
I guess being a little older I see things slightly different, it's true I've dated a lot of women that share virtually none of my interests, but it was purely physical, they were normally "hot" so that was enough. It never lasted very long, which was fine, because like the Director is feeling his oats today, I was also free agent and really didn't care.
But for me a relationship has to have some key things, "deal makers" we can call them that are necessary to just be able to deal with me. If you don't like sports, you can never understand why I'm so passionate about it and yell at the TV or spend stupid amounts of cash on tickets.
Likewise if you don't like music, well there's no reason to explain that one..., or able to talk about world events, politics, travel, etc. those are the bare necesities to have any kind of conversation witih me.
Someone I'm dating doesn't have to march in lock step with me, but without some commonality it's really just a booty call and won't last more than a few weeks.
So I can understand your perspective, because I've been there, but in a few years I think you'll start seeing deal breakers for what they really are. Unless Ms. Jr. South Carolina accepts a wedding proposal before you come to your senses.