You should do board meetups.
I've probably met a dozen or more people from the board over the years and without fail, they have all been at least as pleasant and often more pleasant in person than online. I bet you're more pleasant to be around in person than online yourself.
By hiding, you only allow people to continue to think the worst of you.
And what's so bad about being hit on? Isn't it an ego boost? That said, 95% of those here are men, and the women here seem to be hitched anyway.