I told her she was being abusive, and she said "Don't be such a pussy."
I apologized for unwittingly leaving a mess, and she said the apology wasn't good enough and proceeded to yell at me for putting hte salsa in the "wrong place" in the fridge.
I went on a dog walk with my daughter who advised me to "apologize even if you know you're right, that's the only way to get her to stop."
Wise one, my kid.